You are a piece of double-sided tape
You are a piece of double-sided tape. You have no worries in the December issue of Human Capital. You are in a workplace wrapped in a large environment. It does not prevent you from arming yourself into a piece of double-sided tape, sticking to the workplaces you have dreamed ofExpectations inside and out, and fulfill their expectations of you one by one.
Double-sided tape can stick two separate things together, making them a whole.
It is precisely this inconspicuous double-sided tape that allows two things to kiss each other into a possibility, and in the process, it can make full use of itself.
We in the workplace are like double-sided tapes, constantly playing against the expectations of the outside world.
We are unable to directly change the expectations of a third party such as a company or a friend, but only adjust our energy status so that the three will have a benign linkage.
If it wasn’t for An Yu trembling on MSN, “It’s been a long time since you met, are you okay?”
“These words were sent to Zhao Wen, I’m afraid they are still two parallel lines.
The two agreed to meet at a coffee shop not far from each other.
Greetings, seated, the two asked for a cup of cappuccino, and the coffee seemed to dissolve the gap between the two quickly, feeling warmer.
After graduating from a well-known university of finance and economics three years ago, An Yu and Zhao Wen worked in the finance department of Company A.
An Yu started from a basic cashier, and the work was not very detailed; Zhao Wen’s excellent communication ability changed at the beginning of his work.
When the company’s finance department applied to the bank for a mortgage loan with real estate, Zhao Wen was in charge of “lobbying” and finally won the difficult bone of the bank and successfully applied for funds for corporate development.
The gap between the two appeared after Zhao Wen was appointed manager of the finance department.
The smile on the surface couldn’t conceal the drop in An Yu’s heart.
When working, Zhao Wen apparently showed strong strength beyond his friends.
After the launch of the personnel transfer, the relationship between the two was abnormal, and they gradually drifted away from each other.
After the crack in the relationship between the two, An Yu thought about it and decided to jump ship.
Accounting firm B was her second stop on the landing.
It took only two years for An Yu to pass the CPA, and she stood out from the project team and was appointed as the project manager. The team then performed internal audits and disclosure of statements for listed companies.
However, the fact that she lost friends in the past has caused a great psychological shadow to her. She is always used to being alone and has little communication with colleagues.
He usually goes out for audits for as little as ten days and as many as two or three months. He spends much time with his team members and the financial staff of the other company.
Zhao Wen shook his head helplessly when he heard it, and said: In fact, my life is not good!
Shortly after An Yu’s job change, the company’s finance department experienced a personnel quake that collectively changed jobs. The chief financial officer and several key members of his company changed jobs to companies with competitive relationships within the industry.
For a while, the company’s financial operations were paralyzed.
Soon, the company hired a new chief financial officer and several employees.
It was probably that the transition of the collective collective job-hopping incident was too large, and the company’s senior management showed distrust to the old employees of the finance department.
In the moment of advancement and retreat, Zhao Wen decided to lie down.
Although she retained her position, the impact of the aftershocks of the personnel earthquake and the weakness in her business ability made it difficult for her to meet the requirements of her new boss.
Even more difficult problems arise in her life.
Mom planned a lot of blind date events for Zhao Wen herself. She often occupied the weekends, and sometimes ran several dating places like a catch-up day. On the weekends, she couldn’t relax, which made her physically and mentally exhausted.
During the confession, the two noticed Chuck on the bookshelf beside the table.
The idea is: take a cup of coffee and take yourself completely away from the workplace, design a plan, “find it, change it, pass it on.”
Circles are not traps. People need to be combed to become one of the conditions for double-sided tape: integration.
Both An Yu and Zhao Wen had problems with their relationships.
One is the inability to communicate well with company colleagues and customers, and the other is the pressure of the family to interpret the romantic love into a fatigued journey.
In fact, these problems are all due to changes in the expectations of the three parties.
After the work phase, the tripartite expectations will gradually change.After Zhao Wen was promoted to finance manager, the company’s expectations for the two were no longer equal. It would be a mistake for An Yu to think that the company would treat them equally.
Looking at Zhao Wen again, after the personnel quake in the Finance Department, his potential threat to the company threatened the company’s expectations.
She did not turn around in time, and did not communicate with friends and family, which would cause distortion of information outside the workplace: family and friends thought she was a company celebrity, had a considerable income, and no boyfriend noticed herThe workplace status does not match.
In this way, the vicious circle may turn the workplace into a slaughterhouse.
Simplify workplace relationships.
As long as there are economic benefits, friendship is no longer simple.
Therefore, you may wish to maintain a “business mentality” when dealing with people in the workplace, everyone working together for a goal, the mood will be much more peaceful.
If it is a company like Zhao Wen who is entertaining inside and outside the company, the manager who has no skills can remove those who think that he is “relationship with himself” and “useful to himself” and “both are good”Draw a two-dimensional quadrant to prioritize.
The interpersonal relationships inside and outside the workplace can be reorganized. As a double-sided adhesive, you will be able to convert the load and feel a lot easier.
Job-hopping is not a springboard, nor is lying in the groove.
There is nothing wrong with choosing between lying or jumping.
The key is the level of opportunity cost. We choose whether to jump or stay. It is just a way and means to try to change a certain “potential” and find a new balance point.
Job change is not a springboard.
A person’s career development is irreversible, and he can only try his best to continue on the new path he has created. Don’t expect to jump into the sky.
For example, An Yu, after she changed jobs, she raised her professional level to a certain level.
Once she walks out of her former psychological haze, the tripartite expectations will reach a new balance, and success is just around the corner.
Of course, the berth is not a berth, and we cannot sit still.
It doesn’t mean that the expectations of the three parties will always maintain a constant balance, it is just that a personnel earthquake easily changed it.
If Zhao Wen can communicate well with family and friends, reduce external expectations and simplify useless interpersonal relationships, then more time will be used to improve her own quality, thereby driving the company’s second improvement of her expectations.
The core point is how to make yourself fully and professionally competent.
As a double-sided adhesive, there are likely to be certain things that are simply within your range of stickiness.
Then we will try to increase our stickiness, keep trying, or find new “prey” and stick to it.
Compatible is the third best condition to become double-sided tape: compatible.
We are struggling to develop relationships with others, searching the bowels, and finding ways to get along with company employees, partners, customers, friends, and family; we lie, jump, and wait around the workplace to find the smallest route toOperate our expectations and make them compatible with the external expectations of both parties.
When An Yu and Zhao Wen adjust themselves to the right track, their tripartite expectations will become harmonious, and work and life will become relaxed and happy.
So, there are no friends between them to do it, is there no way to achieve small-scale compatibility?
the answer is negative.
After An Yu moved to the office, the usual interpersonal relationships can be integrated and reused. Moreover, they still live in the same circle, work, and may become partner or client relationships in the future.
So they are still friends, friends who are more mature on the basis of win-win interests.
We are not independent of each other. If they are compatible with each other, a superposition of expectations will be achieved, and your “stickiness” will be stronger.