Where does baby’s selfishness come from
Why are children now so selfish?
Is selfishness inherent?
I believe many young parents have been so frustrated.
Where does the child’s selfishness and rudeness come from?
Example lens from life 1: Mingming’s mother noticed that she did not know how to become selfish.
The child asked him to borrow a toy. He waved his hand and said, “If you don’t lend it, lend it to you, and I will not play.
“He grabbed the delicious food with his hands, his parents asked him, and he hid tightly:” If you don’t give it, give it to me.
“I met such a situation, and obviously Mom was angry:” Obviously, how can you be so selfish?
“I heard my mother’s words and wept with tears.” Did you not lend the soy sauce at home to your neighbor’s aunt last time? ”
You say, ‘Lend your things to others, and you ‘ll be gone’.
“It’s clear that Mommy is here now.
It turned out to be a little act of his own that made Mingming selfish.
Every child is a piece of white paper, and the parents are the paintbrushes that apply this piece of white paper. It is very important for every parent to set a good example of the child’s life.
When parents try to lead by example and take the initiative to make way when they go out by bus, their neighbors are eager to help when they have difficulties.
After launching, you will surely find that children are also thinking about everyone.
Doting lens from parents 2: Everyone who knows Xiaolu couples says that Xiaolu couples are very bold.
Although the conditions in the home are average, but others have difficulties, they will still help.
Because of this, they feel they owe too many children.
Every time I buy delicious food at home, I never want to eat it myself, leaving it to the children.
Once, the child made the sweet and sour pork ribs that the child likes most. Since there are many taboos, there is no contraindication. When they were about to stretch out the chopsticks, the bowl of ribs was taken by the baby son to himself:You cannot eat.
“Seeing that his son is so selfish, Xiaolu and his wife are sad.
”Parents don’t like to eat”, many parents have told their children.
In fact, it is the parents’ love for their children that has caused their selfishness.
Parents should not spoil their children. They should revoke the child’s privileges and let him know that good things are to be shared, not exclusive. When the child comes to share with you, do not refuse his request.
From Unconditional Satisfaction Shot 3: Once shopping, I saw a child crying and forcing parents to buy toys.
The child was crying, and the two adults were arguing. The child’s father said, “Can’t buy anymore, there are many toys at home.
“The mother of the child said,” It’s not that you can’t afford it. It’s pathetic to see the child cry.
“The baby already has a lot of toys, but he is still clamoring to buy new ones. When he sees other children’s toys, he can’t help but reach out to grab them.
When parents encounter such a situation, they mainly choose to compromise with their children. First, the children cry outside and do n’t buy and feel lost; second, the parents feel that their living conditions are better, and they are unwilling to let their children suffer.
Don’t you know that it is this kind of thinking that turns the child’s desire into a bottomless pit, which will never fill up.
In the face of unreasonable demands from children, we must learn to refuse, not to meet endlessly.
So when your child asks for something, don’t meet him immediately, or delay time appropriately, set up some small obstacles for him.
Gradually, he will understand that not all requirements will be satisfied by adults, and learn to restrain his desires.
When he can restrain his desire, the selfish behavior of reaching out to grab the toy will decrease.
In this way, guide the baby to share toys with his friends. The 2- and 3-year-olds are reluctant to give their toys to others and want other people’s toys.
This is the 2-year-old Hirsch.
One day, she had a teddy bear and her mother playing in the community park, and suddenly a ragdoll in the hands of a child caught her attention.
So she grabbed without saying anything, and where would the little girl follow her, she pushed hard.Xixi was pushed to the ground, crying like a teardrop, her mother wiped tears for Xixi and said, “Hixi, if that kid also came to grab your teddy bear, would you give it silently?
Hearing, he shook his head and said, “This is mine. I won’t give it to her.”
“Mother touched Hoshi’s head and said softly:” Yeah, that kid must be the same as you. ”
However, if you really want to play, there is still a way.
She asked curiously, “What is it?
Mother cleared her throat and said, “Look, can you use your teddy bear to exchange with your child’s doll?
“Mother took Hirsch and asked Hirsch to say to the child,” Children, I trade my teddy bear for your ragdoll for a while.
“The kid thought and nodded in agreement.
After exchanging toys, everyone was having fun.
Proper guidance is important for children.
When you see your child “selfish”, don’t force corrections, parents should set an example for themselves!