Stressful newlywed sex
The reason why men are “lost” is nothing more than worrying about their inability, being ill, or having experienced unpleasant experiences, which often causes their minds to reappear unknowingly and interfere with sex.
At this time, you must show appropriate care, especially to be patient with him through this awkward period; therefore, it is recommended that you do not prevent you from first invoking his confidence through other intimate methods such as non-sexual intercourse, and fulfillLet him feel your joy in the intimate relationship with each other, and even take the initiative to show his sexy side, I believe he will soon show his strength naturally.
Stress 1: Feeling suspicious of your sexual abilities and worrying about your dissatisfaction. According to the survey, Taiwanese men generally think that it takes a long time to get an erection before women can be satisfied, and also that women must have a strong reaction to show that he is “very good.””It’s very strong,” so the subconscious is worried that the other party will have an affair because of their dissatisfaction, and as a result they will soften after doing it, no matter how exciting it can’t get up.
Remedy: If you fail many times, you don’t have to rush to help him recover.
Take a break from both sides to give him a chance to breathe; you can use other methods to express intimacy, let him know that you are really satisfied with your relationship, and rebuild his confidence.
Pressure 2: Afraid to live up to your good intentions and be kind to the pressure. When you are worried that his pressure is too great, you might say: “It doesn’t matter, sexual intercourse is not the most important, the most important thing is the harmony of the soul .””It doesn’t matter if you don’t do it once, come again next time .” But you must not know that your kind consolation is also his greatest source of stress.
Remedy: If your partner has had failed sexual intercourse experience, your best encouragement is not to use words to comfort or encourage him, and in the next visit, do not try to use more exciting methods to helphe.
Because the man who has failed often proves that he is okay, he often secretly proves that he is OK with the most exciting method, so if you also adopt a similar method, he will recall the unpleasant experience in his mind.
You should take an indirect stimulus. Do n’t touch or show directly. You can use sexy underwear and ear-talking to make him happy. The indirect stimulus will make it easier for him who has failed before.You can fully express your joy during your visit, see your satisfied expression, hear your pleasant voice, and say to him that it is the best treatment.
Women: Stress 1: Unbuttoning the inferiority of the body. The first pressure women face before they have sex is that they are worried that their bodies are not good enough to satisfy their sexual partners and even destroy the necessary relationship.
But in real life, there are not many people who can be as good as a star, so you must build up your self-confidence in your figure and accept yourself.
Remedy: For women’s concerns and pressure, men must give positive evaluation and encouragement.
Men must understand that sex is not only physical and sensory desires, but also emotional communication; if you are not satisfied with your figure, you can replace the mood with the female and compare the heart to the heart to relieve the pressure brought by the appearance.
Stress 2: Fear of sexual intercourse “Expectation” pressure “Sexuality is not beautiful at all, only uncomfortable.
“This is a topic often mentioned when many handkerchiefs talk about boudoir secrets.
Due to the lack of sex education, many people have sex knowledge from movies, TV or fiction.
In those worlds, sex is beautiful, but in fact, not everyone has the same experience; therefore, when people pass word of mouth, sex will not only be unromantic, but even bring pain.
Some people also think that sexual intercourse is only a routine business, and filtered advertisements are even just to satisfy the behavior of men.
With this concept, when women want to go to bed with a sexual partner, they will naturally have a feeling of fear and disgust, and they will certainly not have a satisfactory and happy sexual behavior.
Another similar fact is the aversion to sexual organs.
In the comic “Shiratori Reiko”, the heroine Shiratori Shirai is first-class in both face and body. When she falls in love, she also has a beautiful fantasy.The appearance of a big beauty is totally unworthy, so she is disillusioned with sex.
Although the plot is funny, it is very vivid that young women are full of contradictions about sexual intercourse.
This belief that the sexual organs are ugly is just like the notion that sexual behavior is painful, which prevents many women from enjoying sex with ease.
Remedy: If women’s preconceptions or stereotypes about sex are deep-rooted, they will still cause psychological obstacles.
At this time, the other half’s thoughtfulness and understanding, and communication with both parties, have become the key to the solution.
In order for men to relieve women’s fear and expectations of sex, they must understand what women expect from sex, disarm them, and forget about their doubts about sex; while being guided by women, asking the woman’s feelings from time to time can also make themAfter sex, endless lingering.